Grains of salt are recommended with this post, like as salty as the smoked salmon omelette my friends choked down yesterday.

The 16 personality types (like the Meyers-Briggs test, but free) is a fun way to learn a little about yourself with a little bit of soft psychology. As I’ve warned, some skepticism is recommended because we’re human and often don’t fit in to simplified categories.

I’ve tested as an INFJ since college. Periodically I re-test, because I firmly believe that a person may change as they age and as life events create periods of upheaval.  After my car accident, I stayed stagnant in every portion of my life for seven years. I was dependent on my husband and lost my sense of identity. Then, a year and a half ago, I found EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and after four months I was comfortable driving myself around, being on my own at places like the grocery store, and was finally developing a backbone. It was a massive change and I thought, “perhaps my personality has changed.”


I’ve changed what parts of my personality are more lively, more seen, but at my core, I’m still a weird little introvert who lives in a rich world of my thoughts and creativity. Being and INFJ feels like no one understands all the facets of me, like there’s a different me for every situation, but  I’ve been collecting other INFJ’s over time, and they are my favorite people. They skip small-talk and get right to the meat of what it means to be human.

Today I’m thankful for them. They help me feel less isolated in my oddities.